So last night, after kids were put to bed, I decided to have a little romantic evening with the Mrs.
Opened a bottle of wine, turned the light low in the lounge and did those things that married couples used to do before a decade of marriage and children got in the way -- we talked and even laughed.

Was lovely, so after we'd killed a bottle of wine, I suggest we should bath and go to bed, she readily agreed, man I was so excited, convinced that tonight was the night. While she was in the bath, I came in and tenderly washed her back and then while I was showering I saw her removing the winter hairy growth from her legs. Wooo-Freakin-hoooo. Now I was sure tonight was the night we'd break the drought.

Anyway, I finished showering, brushed my teeth and quickly climbed into bed. I was so excited, was quivering like a puppy being fed, if I had a tail I'd be wagging it.
Anyway, about 30 minutes later, Mrs comes out of the bathroom, okay, she wasn't wearing her sexy nighty, was dressed in her usual winter wear of old tracksuit pants and top wither sleep socks on.
No worries, maybe she's playing a little harder to get.
She climbs into bed and I fake a yawn, put my book down and turn off the light.

Oh the excitement as she rolls into me and cuddles closer, her hands slowly stroking my thigh, close enough to that area to excite but not touch. Oh the tease she is.

My little man springs so much to attention I can feel the blood drain from my face, my heart pounds, I am waiting, hoping that maybe for the first time in many years she will initiate... praying she will.

I cannot stand it, and also slowly reach out to touch her... "No"she says, oh wow I think, she wants to take charge, just the idea drives my libido wild, and I get so hard it hurts.

She comes in closer, kisses me on the cheek and whispers "Good night" rolls over and goes to sleep.

I mean WTF! C'mon! And once again the drought continues and no nooky for me.

Went to sleep with such a hard on I woke up with lower back pain this morning. Sometimes life is just not fair ;-)

Oh wow what a mood killer!

That surely is unfair as it was most definitely not what you were expecting...

Why did you not try and take control of the situation?

Or have you tried and miserably failed?

Sorry about your dilemma, however you're welcome to come sign up to my Loyalty Reward Programme and I could help you out ;) xxx

Grant, welcome to my world...

I sometimes threaten my wife, jokingly Ofcoarse , with an 'outside contracter' who is available......

I bet you if she found you on here the first thing she would say was "what was I not enough for you??"

Anyway deadbedroom is real so go check out this support group

www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms

I also found

www.amazon.co.uk/Married-Man-Life-Primer-2011/dp/1460981731

Pretty good, but hasn't worked for a while...

Best advice don't take it too personally (hard to do seeing that it's you that she no longer fucks) .. look after you, go to the gym, talk to other woman (as friends don't fuck them), and stop acting like a fucking beta, don't wash the dishes every night, take the kids away for the weekend without her, you may need to build a strong bond with them because the final bit of advice is if it does not come right after you try implementing some of the advice in the book and chat room on yourself then the problem is her and you deserve sexual happiness and spiritual fulfillment in your life and having someone at home continually rejecting you ain't going make that happen...

Ps also make sure she ain't fucking someone else cause you know that normally puts them off fucking you...

Good luck..

what the hell?? I mean is that how married life is??? I don't ever see myself doing this to my husband if I ever get married. You mention years... like why does it end up like that?

Wow sorry to hear this.. xx

On 2017-07-05 16:47:23 Stacey said:
what the hell?? I mean is that how married life is??? I don't ever see myself doing this to my husband if I ever get married. You mention years... like why does it end up like that?

Wow sorry to hear this.. xx

This is one of the main reasons you have such a well paying job Stacey.. few wives know that what they hate doing can be outsourced to some one of the talents of you, plus from your swinging story's I highly doubt you could become a boring wife even if you wanted too ...

On 2017-07-05 16:07:24 BigBen4Fun said:
Grant, welcome to my world...

Ditto !!!!

Sad that married life has to come to this

It should be kept spiced up and effort should be put in from both sides

Make time for each other, take time to re-explore each other and rekindle that spark

On 2017-07-05 17:11:24 Ziske said:
Sad that married life has to come to this

It should be kept spiced up and effort should be put in from both sides

Make time for each other, take time to re-explore each other and rekindle that spark

2 to tango... If there is no buy in from the one ain't none of that gonna happen..