Hi Gents &, lovely Ladies

I know this is not the platform to chat about my desire to be a wife. But maybe someone can help me take off my rose tinted glasses and accept life as it is. For obvious reasons i have joined ESA to supplement my income. I have met some remarkable gentleman, everything i could desire in a man in the bedroom... I always thought i knew what men wanted:Good sex and good food not forget an earth shattering blow job. So over the years i have groomed myself to be a lady working in corporate and a bitch in bed, satisfying his every need and wants but im still clueless...seems as if im still not worthy of the Honor to be someones wife... So, what do men really want?

I'd marry you lol you look amazing. I just think you haven't found Mr right

Marriage today is not the Marriage of years back with our grand grand parents....

I think keeping your independence is most important...

and lastly....

If it is something you truly desire, don't look for it , don't chase it.

That's when the magic happens.

Kylie

Been married twice. Its an obsolete pointless institution. Its makes you happy for a while then it becomes a misery. Best time of my life is now being single not having to put up with anyones nonsense.

I read this.


"...if you choose a working woman then you have to accept that she can't handle the household full time, if you choose a housewife who can take care of you and manage the home completely you need to accept that she doesn't make money, if you choose a submissive woman then you must accept that she depends on you, if you choose to be with a brave woman you must accept that she is tough and has thoughts of her own, if you choose a beautiful woman you have to accept that she has expenses too, if you choose to be with a great woman you must accept that she is tough and firm, no woman is perfect , a woman has her own good things that defines who she is and makes her unique..."



RB.

Most men who have been married once before just realize that there is zero upside to getting married again; especially if you are financially well-off. Then you run the risk that she at some point decides she actually would like your money to herself. Best for a guy to stay single after first marriage and just have whoever he wants, when he wants, and when she starts getting demanding you move on.

On 2025-02-02 21:52:50 Russian Bridgitte said:
I read this.


"...if you choose a working woman then you have to accept that she can't handle the household full time, if you choose a housewife who can take care of you and manage the home completely you need to accept that she doesn't make money, if you choose a submissive woman then you must accept that she depends on you, if you choose to be with a brave woman you must accept that she is tough and has thoughts of her own, if you choose a beautiful woman you have to accept that she has expenses too, if you choose to be with a great woman you must accept that she is tough and firm, no woman is perfect , a woman has her own good things that defines who she is and makes her unique..."



RB.

+1
And the reciprocal ............

danwest...

Hopefully it ain't a comparison or competition and not looking to try and change the person one met and entered into a relationship with while still wearing "rose tinted honeymoon glasses" .

Sometimes we wish not to know or see what is bfr our very noses.

Sometimes we don't know to grow with the relationship and remain "in love" with what was years ago instead of appreciating the dynamics of an ever evolving pairing.


Marriage is not for the cowardly of character...and in saying that I do not exclude myself.

I love the institution of marriage but would never enter into it lightly. It carries huge value and responsibility for me.

Best to be single than play house house. Commitment is a serious thing for me. Said without judgement or prejudice toward anybody.



RB.

Be careful what you wish for.. before rubbing that magic lamp , or tossing coin in a pond or wishing on a star.. consider carefully;)

Love, parnerships and marriage seems easy looking from the outside in.

We all think and believe he loves me as i am or i love him as he is thats all that matters.

The you he loves now and the he you love now will have forever changed in a few months and will be changing constantly as time passes by.

You need to be prepared to not only love your own changes as time passes on but also the changes of a partner.

Some of those changes dont always line up in harmony with that of a partner and there "the for better or worse part' gets tested to its limits.. how much are you willing to sacrifice of yourself to embrace that change and restore harmony again.

The "sickness and in health part" later in life and sometimes even long before we expect it to kick in are probably the most challenging.

How much do you want to be a wife or husband.. because when sickness knocks in the door..you are the next of kin and you would be solely responsible to keep your partner motivated, comfortable etc.

This is but two very challenging aspects of becoming someones wife or husband..

We had not even touched on children, finances, work, inlaws etc that all need to be navigate while loving your partner and being that wife or husband that you wished to be.

Yes its beautiful you will never be alone, you will have a "best friend", "a lover" , "a caregiver", "a provider", "a companion" a partner in all things in house, if you both manage to navigate the constant change successfully.

I think years ago it was easier for people to keep loving each other no matter what the challenges and changes where. Today i think its a lot harder. Social media and the bombardment of outside opinions and "idiologies" of how it should be or what is acceptable or not has people giving up way easier and heading to divorce courts much faster that was the norm way then.

The words.."for better or worse , in sickness and in health" had more meaning and believe and promise behind it than it seems to have today.

I do sincerely wish you to find that one that will be you "till death do us part" so you can be that wife you want to be.

Miss Red - so true and nicely said.