On 2023-05-22 22:16:06 Kensley said:
This industry though, toxic, fuck it.
This space *** sexsensual space *** is one of the most difficult to occupy.
It warrants, to quite a huge degree, emotional engagement, opening up the "real you" in the most intimate and private ways, to make the experience excellent for the man who walked through your door as well as for yourself.
It makes one vulnerable and exposed, each time giving one's self a little bit more away....even in the most "vanilla" of shares.
That vulnerability to public opinion, needing a head firmly screwed to ones shoulders.
Thus, in my opinion, this sort of toxicity, hits harder than any found in other workplaces because, toxicity can be found wherever one might work.
And to make it worse...in this space, one cannot go to anybody and discuss work challenges or excellent experiences.
Should one do so...the intrigue, dirty games, underhandedness which sadly seems to go hand in hand with this sexy space can bite u in your sexy ass.
How come?
Because ...as stated above, ones emotional self has been invested and exposed to another....bared for their scrutiny and enjoyment.
It makes one feel good to be told how sexy one is, beautiful, pretty, gorgeous...a goddess in bed and much more.
How any man would be lucky to have u all to himself.
What one must not forget...and here, it may sound callous and cold and cynical...one must never forget....THIS IS A JOB YOU HAVE CHOSEN AND NEEDS TO BE TREATED AS SUCH WITHOUT PERSONALISING IT.
I know my beautiful ladies....easier said than done.
Remember....not meant to burst your bubble but, a naked woman to a man, no matter who she may be.....big butt, small but, huge tits or perky tits , thunder thighs or twiggy sticks, midget size or amazon..... who flaunts and engages those female God given assets in the privacy of a "bedroom" to the best of her ability, is a goddess to all men.
Of course I am generalizing a slight bit here and the men, rightly, can add their bit to this statement...I know I would agree with many on some point that can be raised.
BUT what I am trying to say....
He is NOT yours to claim.
He is NOT yours to discuss with other SP's
Nor is he the yard stick to judge yourself by....as,many would like you to believe.
DO NOT compare yourself to ANYBODY because you ARE perfect the way you are and in the same breath remember as perfect as you are so you ain't any more special than the next SP....that is where the magic and peace happens....knowing your self....in THIS space....this WORK space.
Be humble and caring toward yourself.
The minute your instinct tells you trouble is on the horizon....RUN....run as far away as possible and DO NOT allow your curiosity to get the better of you by wanting to know " a little more" and engaging.
Strong will and steadfast of character is the way to go.
Why not want to know more?
You already know it is shit, nothing clever to take away and grow and better ones self with.....leave the shit to ferment in its own stench.
As the saying goes....curiosity killed the cat.
Acquaintances can be many.
Friends are rare...be sure to pick them carefully .
A HUGE strong loving caring hug to all.
RB.