This was addressed to Rolex...

Now is addressed to the whole of ESA

Life doesn't happen without irony.
I am in a pool of tears!!!
I am quite lost at this very moment and to be honest I am in dare need to put myself together before I collapse!

The Hotel form where I work has change name, ownership, management and investor group.

In the past I have said in the ESA forums that the apartment I rent here is also a registered business of neuro-linguistic programming and medical hypnosis.
The new management do not agree that I conduct any private business from here as this goes against their internal rules and business act no- 71 of 1991.
They have asked me for the premises to be vacate no later than the 18th of October, in two days time from when the letter was received.
I have furnished, decorated full and I even partially renovated this apartment at great cost to me, to make it appropriate for my disguised escorting business too.

The implications of having to leave are devastating to me.
What is seems not transcendental or important for some is a matter of life for others as is this for me.

While reading the notice given, the fear that escaped my body was un- measurable...I tremble, so badly...I break in such cold sweat that i couldn't hide...
I really couldn't breathe..
Wordless, I left fast to my apartment where I could burst into tears.
I cry...
I cry..
This is a full blown move to a storage now.
I have to find now a place to work from that is suitable for the unique type of service I offer.
To my detriment this can NOT be done in a venue of a standardized 1 hour service client after client.
To find a place that I consider ideal to me is way difficult and does not come cheap!
To my detriment I can not work with any other lady in this business either...my terrible personality and peculiar manner which I like to do things does not allow it so.

Worse is, this sudden and unexpected change caught me quite low and bottom in my finances.

If quite few in this very forum could say it openly, they would tell you that I had giving out thousands and thousands of rand to help them in a moment of need.

*please note I said I gave willingly and happy to do so and NOT lent.
And please note too that none of this people have asked me for those thousands of rand either but I have offer them to help spontaneously.

I Give some times to a fault but I have a great difficulty in my life of knowing how to receive and I don't think that I will learn that in this very last minute...in the near future perhaps.

In that light it will take a bit of time, effort and courage to re-build this business of mine again by myself to what it was till yesterday.
I might be absence temporary ...maybe only few days, maybe much more.

It will also mean some temporary changes in the way I do my services If I have to temporary come back to the venue I was partnering before which will mean that I might have to comeback too to my 1200 rand standardised 1 hour service...AND THAT IS KILLING ME!

Although my hour and a bit those days seem to have been always above the rest and well described by Legendary Punter, Lexx, and many others reviewers that is not what I want any longer my encounters to look and feel like!
Its not the prawns or sushi or johnny walker blue while conversing and connecting that I will miss... Or the 2 hours and some....its the whole thing...I NO LONGER KNOW HOW TO DO DIFFERENT..or do the old ways

MY BIGGEST APOLOGIES TO:
ROLEX and BOOBS.

Both for coming from overseas and plan this special encounter and even change their itinerary to fulfil our meeting and now I can not longer comply.
This breaks me really!
Rolex and I supposed to meet this evening of the 17th and a great deal of things was arranged!
So sad!!!
To all those I offered a session to my cost I would advise to wait until I can again offer my 2 hours worthy of the special moment.

I am angry....angry and angry at life at the moment!
Because the lack of dignity, independence and lack of self-sufficiency that escorts are condemn to live because the legal factor of it.
Living hiding your business from society, land lords, and basically the world...
We are that 'society anomaly'.
The impediment of not having your home in your name..or your car in your name....a bank account...any title of any sort... Which automatically convert the escort in the easy prey of those that "want to help" by doing those things for you'
A blade of grass has more sovereignty and human rights than escorts!!
And that generates fear, powerlessness...
Living in fear and powerless is like dying one bit every day...
But dying is no way to live...

MY LIFE IS FOR LIVING and nothing else...

I don't know how to live this way and I want this industry to change!
But I am a dreamer full of naivete!

Night night...South Africa.
I love you.
Valentina

Oh my god!

I am so sorry to hear that Valentina.

Is there anything I could do to help?

Hi Valentina, you are indeed one of the most generous people I know, from the moment one meets you, it shines through,the effort you put in to make one feel welcome and special, not to mention the generosity you openly showed towards me and others on the forum. It saddens me to read that you now have to go through this. I have no doubt that Rolex and Boobs and others will be understanding as you are open and sincere about the challenges you face,and I have no doubt that you will continue to receive support (including from myself, I owe you so much), through this challenging period.

Valentina....
I knew so little about the ESA world and took to familiarising myself as to what was on offer and who was worthy of being taken note of.

I say this, without offence to ANY lady on the forum, but you stood out and no matter at times when envy stirred in the pit of my stomach ( a good envy), I learnt the importance of many many different things from you and ensured to pen down many an advise you shared.

Our paths are different, but the basics of offering an excellent service and striving at your A-game no matter what, is applicable to all on this forum.
And you have always advocated that.

It was a sad and scary read when I saw your thread.
Wish I had something better to offer than mere words, but,
May your path forward be blessed with the best answers and solutions and may you soar higher than ever before.

All my strength to you and may the Universe be kind and shine down on you.

Bridgitte.

Valentina, So sorry to hear of the way u are being treated. Truly life is unfair to the escorts, many of whom are simply offering a service that is required and not being overtly criminal. Then you get those like Ms B and yourself who put their hearts and souls into their business and develop something unique that is an experience shared between two people and not just a matter of the next pay cheque.
Once again I salute ur bravery for coming forward in your typical passionate and open, honest way to share and highlight this.
Knowing how giving you are I a sure the universe will see you right and help will be made available.

Wishing you success on the road ahead and looking forward to hearing from you when you back on your feet.

Sorry to hear about your dilemma miss v. Just remember u miss v that awesome bar setting wg that sets example for all wgs in terms of service,your gud nature,proffesionalism. I have no doubt that you have a plan which will be executed in due time and with precision,proffessional that we all become accustomed to. Gonna leave u with these words whateva happens,happens for a reason and if it doesn't kill us it'lle only make us more stronger more determined,more determined to succeed. Take care and be all u can be and have been and will be lotsa luv,hugs and kisses.

Dear Valentina
Im so sorry to read about your circumstances. My heart truly goes out to you. I do pray that all will work out for you. You are a strong and amazing woman, with a heart of gold. May your paths be blessed. You are most welcome to stay with us in Menlo Park. You can still operate from here.

So sorry to hear what has happened to you.

Having said that, I firmly believe that nothing is random. Often bad things happen to us or obstacles placed in our path, that leaves us feeling helpless, with no way out. But these obstacles or bad things are crossroads in life, giving us the option to choose a path. The trick is to find the map hidden within us and choose the right path.

Often the path we are supposed to take, is totally the opposite of the one we want to take, so we resist going that route.This results in repeated obstacles placed in our path, until we listen to the Universe and go where it wants us to go. More often than not, once we go where it wants us to go, we see that there was indeed a treasure of gold hidden in the perceived darkness.

So Valentina, look within yourself and you will find that map, which will show you which way you are supposed to go.

On 2015-10-17 01:59:48 Valentina Dibella said:

The new management do not agree that I conduct any private business from here as this goes against their internal rules and business act no- 71 of 1991.
They have asked me for the premises to be vacate no later than the 18th of October, in two days time from when the letter was received.

Valentina, I am so sorry to hear of this terrible news that your building management has opted to act in such a manner.

I would ask 2 things...

1. Do you have a contract (verbal or otherwise) with the previous management that gives you your premises as a rental, therefore making you a Tenant.
2. Are you aware of the Rental Housing Act.

Basically, the rules are that if a property is sold and there is a tenant in place, then that previous tenants agreement must still be honored by the new owners. Therefore they are required to give you proper and full notice if they wish you to vacate prior to the end of your agreement, and if you refuse then they must go to court at their cost and then get a judgement against you to force you to move.

So far under our legal system this is has never been enforced as the previous agreement is still valid and there is no legal reason as the corporate bodies rules and bylaws cannot, and never will, supersede National Legal Statutes.

Either way, I hope you find a solution that will work for you and allow you to find your way forward.

Brigitte your writing is beautiful and it feels clearly coming from a warm heart with a great mind! You are sincere!

oh Valentina Valentina.
You are thr most magnanimous and majestic person I have meet in my life but foremost you are so humble that as you said, it can be a fault rather then a virtue.
you are one of those souls that i am immensely grateful to have encounter on this earth!
Someone am proud to call a friend.
everyone above had giving you the best sounded advise and inspiring words. Take them in.

I was one of those you helped while in one of my darkest moments, something that i will never forget because it was the greatest help i ever got because completely unconditional.

I offer you my modest help now.
you will be ok.